Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen


This is quite an eye-opening book for me because I would never have thought that I would read a book with this title one day. I’m not an ace. I don’t know anyone openly Ace. What do I have to do with them, you know? 

But on the contrary I learned so much from this book. From imagining myself in their shoes and asking myself those questions: what counts as a friend vs a partner when there is no sex. how language can be counterproductive when people use the same word but refer to different internal states, how do you know what you really want and it’s not just because of some political propaganda or some pride or some “gold-star ace” syndrome. Why is the opposite of Ace (aromatic but sexual) perceived as bad?

Overall this book was a pleasant surprise and I’d recommend to Ace and non-Ace alike.